10 ways to become the best version of you!
Many people start the year wanting to work on their fitness or losing weight as a way of improving their well being. But what about working on your mind instead?
Most people eat too much because they’re struggling, bored, busy or stressed. Many people are de-motivated because they have core beliefs that hold them back and don’t know how to use their minds to make them do. Many people are anxious and worried when they don’t need to be, think negatively or stay stuck living a life they don’t really want because they don’t realize they have the power to change their lives at anytime!
One of the most empowering things you can do in the New Year (well ever really!), is to work on your mind and make a commitment to be the best version of yourself. It’s empowering, positive and life changing.
Here are my top ten tips on having a better mindset and becoming the best version of you. And if you want support, expertise and encouragement to make some of these things happen – then come and join my BEST mindset program starting 1st Feb!
- Stop comparing yourself to others. Comparison is the complete thief of joy, yet people do it all the time. Your fitness, body, money, job status, size of your house, holidays, who you date or marry – the list is endless. What is it you want? What works for you? What doesn’t work for you? Are you prepared to put the work in to get something? Find out and put all your focus on that. Then make peace with your decision and don’t feel like you have to justify any decision you make to anyone.
- You are the boss of your own life. A concept I believe many people have forgotten about. If you don’t like something change it. If you want to do something, do it. If you want to travel or experience something, for goodness sakes make it happen! People get stuck in situations they don’t want to be in because they don’t realize that they are the only ones that can create that change. We are here once, please make the most of it!
- You have the power to change your thoughts. Be very clear that a thought is just a thought. The feelings we have are created by what we think and focus on. If you are feeling stressed, you will be thinking about the stressful things in your life. If you’re feeling sad, you will be thinking about something or someone that makes you sad. You cannot feel positive when you’re thinking negative things, nor relaxed when you’re thinking about worrying circumstances. You can change your thoughts at anytime. Yes it does take a little practice and time, but the only person that thinks something is yourself. A little thought management goes a long, long way. And changing thoughts is how people change their bodies, fitness levels, jobs and lives.
- Improve your confidence. Having inner confidence stems from three main things: 1) Knowing what your strengths are and building on them 2) Being able to lower your fear by being prepared to get out your comfort zone 3) Not being afraid to make a mistake by accepting you can’t be good at all things and having a growth mindset. A growth mindset means you don’t have to know it all before moving ahead with something, nor that circumstances need to be perfect before you can move forwards. It means you’re prepared to be a work in progress, to constantly learn and develop as you go through your life. It’s effortless, yet extremely powerful.
- What others think of you is none of your business. When you’re able to really not care about what others think of you, your life will change immediately for the better. You’ll live a more authentic, free and successful life. So many people end up doing jobs they don’t want, having a body they struggle to maintain, even buy houses they don’t really want to live in, because they are worried what other people will think of them. What would you be able to achieve or how much better would you feel if you didn’t care what others thought? This is, I am convinced one of the secrets for living the best life possible.
- Don’t waste your potential. If people did what they were capable of they would literally astound themselves. Find your passion, do something you love, become the best at it and understand that your individual resources are infinite! But also appreciate that you have everything you possibly can be inside you right now – coax it out! One of the biggest regrets of the dying is that didn’t do what they could have because they were too busy pleasing other people and trying to fit in (see previous points!).
- Be less critical. Of yourself and others. When people are critical, it is actually a reflection of them. If you are critical of others, that is a sign that you are holding on to tension, anger or blame. If other people are being critical of you, don’t let it bother you, because that’s their stuff. Of course constructive feedback is necessary and helpful sometimes, but stop complaining – certainly about things that you can’t change. Trains are late sometimes, people are slow in shops, those in your office may be less efficient than you. But being critical and complaining is the wrong energy and really only affects you. Learn to chill more.
- The only person that let’s you get stressed is you. The stress we have today isn’t really life or death, yet our poor bodies think we are being attacked by tigers every hour of every day and kicking off our adrenals left, right and center as we panic about money, mortgages, work pressure, to do lists, emails, relationships, children, the news and media. Ironically, the non-life threatening stresses will end up killing more people as our body struggles with all the unnecessary cortisol flowing round our bloodstream and our immunity shuts down. Stress is also the biggest reason people over eat and aren’t motivated to exercise, yet many people don’t know how to manage, reduce and remove stress. It’s easy when you know how and it isn’t always about changing your circumstances either!
- Lower your fear. Of failure and success. Some people have fear of failing, hence avoiding doing something. But many surprisingly have fear of success. Lower your fear, step out your comfort zone and put all your focus on the end result and what you’ll gain from doing something or achieving it, rather than what is going to be uncomfortable and what might (or might not) happen. We create pictures in our minds that feed messages to our brain and your brain can’t actually tell what’s real or fiction, so make up some great stories and see how this changes things for you.
- Don’t sabotage your success. Self-sabotage is when people (often without realizing it) start ruining what they’ve started to do, created, or achieved, because they have sub-conscious beliefs that they don’t deserve it or that success doesn’t belong to who they really are. The conscious part of our brain only controls 5% of our mind, conversely the sub-conscious (the place we store messages, experiences, survival mechanisms from the past etc.) controls 95%. Essentially on a daily basis, there is a David and Goliath tug-of-war going on in your head. Make sure the real you wins. It is possible with the right mindset.
BEST 2016 Starts on the 1st Feb, if you’d like access to the ’What’s BEST 2016 all about’ audio webinar replay, please sign up in the box provided on the BEST program page and you’ll receive the replay link instantly!
And if anyone wants to book in a 10 minute chat to find out if BEST is for you, please contact Gemma in the MTE office – firstname.lastname@example.org.
I hope this inspires you to have a happy, healthy and wonderful week (and life!)…