What works and what doesn’t?
Asking yourself these questions – in whatever area of your life you want to focus on, is one of the simplest ways you can work out how you can improve any situation.
Yet it’s one that many people don’t ask (OR, they may ask it, but then shy away from creating change for fear of being overwhelmed!). In the first of this 2-part blog, I look at how you can start to breakdown different areas of your life.
To start with, get a piece of paper for each area of your life you think you’d like to improve. If you find it too much doing more than one, just do one a day or one a week to start with – you are always in control of your life and how fast or how much you change it!.
So back to the paper exercise….. it may be:
- Business / Work
- Home life
Let’s take business. Get your piece of paper and on the top write BUSINESS /WORK and underneath write ‘WHAT WORKS’ on the left and “WHAT DOESN’T on the right.
Spend about 30-45 mins just mind-dumping everything you can, writing it in the right column and if you aren’t sure whether it’s working or not, have a section at the bottom for now that you can label ‘NOT SURE’
It might be:
- People I work with
- Good training in my company
- Long hours
- Role that doesn’t satisfy me
- No flexible working allowed
- Get too many emails
- Don’t take a lunch break very much
You can go into as much detail and write as much as you want – this is your project!
If you want to, do the same exercise for health / fitness / partner etc etc – but MAKE SURE you have a different piece of paper for each life area category.
After you have spent 30-45 mins on each one (really do try to take your time) put away for 48 hours and then come back to it. Give yourself some space to reflect before action :o)
As you go through your day to day living in the next day or so, make some additional notes on a piece of paper if need be and then go back to the original and add to it, so that in the end, you have one master piece of paper with the ‘What works?’ and ‘What doesn’t?’ for different areas of your life.
If you are tech savvy and like to put things onto spreadsheets, do that with each one, otherwise try to make each page you have look as nice as possible. Taking pride in exercises that will improve your life (and often improve your life 10 fold!) will help you have a buzz about creating change, which is really important as humans often fear it!
Once done, ask yourself these questions:
- How has doing this exercise made you feel?
- How do you feel about the things you have said work?
- What about how you feel about the things that you said have not work?
- Do you feel positive or negative about this exercise? Why do you feel this way?
- Do you know how you can start doing more of the things that work?
- Do you know how you can start doing less of the things that don’t work?
And also write down any other thoughts or feelings that come to mind.
In my next blog, I’ll be revealing how you can make progress with some guidance on how to create change and and some step by step tools and questions to help you have more of what you want, i.e. the stuff that works and less of what you don’t want, i.e. the stuff that doesn’t!
It’s coming soon – watch this space!